The Overconfidence Paradox: Why Professional Success Doesn't Mean Marital Success

    We often celebrate the overconfident — the quick deciders, the assertive voices, the ones who climb the career ladder with unmatched self-belief. Society rewards them. Promotions come easier. Opportunities knock louder. And yes, they often find partners quickly, too — admired for their success, their certainty, and their achievements.

But behind closed doors, that same overconfidence can quietly unravel the very fabric of a relationship.

Overconfidence doesn’t just mean self-assurance. It often means:

• Jumping to conclusions about a partner’s intentions without listening.
• Impatience with emotional processes that can’t be “fixed” like a work problem.
• An inability to sit with doubt, vulnerability, or the need for compromise.
• Seeing disagreement as defiance, not dialogue.

In the boardroom, decisiveness is power. In marriage, it can become dismissal.

The tragedy? Our social metrics confuse professional progress with personal maturity. We match people based on salary slips and job titles, not on humility, empathy, or the willingness to grow together.

A successful marriage isn’t built on who’s right the fastest. It’s built on who’s willing to listen the longest.

Maybe it’s time we stopped applauding only the confident, and started valuing the kind, the patient, the reflective — those who may not have all the answers, but know how to hold space for the questions.

Because love isn’t a deal to close. It’s a bond to nurture.

Remaining open about various types of treatments

 After working in a pharmacy for over a decade—reading lakhs of prescriptions and often accompanying friends to doctor visits—I've gained some insights that many physicians might not want you to hear.

Much of modern medicine is rooted in dogma. It's like a tribal belief system: intensely held convictions that certain treatments are absolute truths, even though most scientific evidence is actually quite grey and nuanced. Yet doctors—especially specialists—often present it as black-and-white fact, implying you're foolish for questioning it.

This has always struck me as odd. When did medicine become so political and dogmatic? Why are those practicing alternative approaches demonized for challenging standardized treatments?

I'm sharing this to empower you: Your doctor isn't God. They're human, susceptible to long-held biases, and the desire for their practices to be "right" after years of experience.

For instance, many physicians fail to adequately inform their patients about the potential side effects of certain medications. Moreover, they often do not fully recognize conditions such as anxiety, back pain, high cholesterol, chronic stress, constipation, fatty liver, hypertension, neck and shoulder pain, PCOS, postural issues, and Type 2 diabetes as primarily lifestyle-related disorders—many of which are largely preventable and reversible through improvements in diet, exercise, and daily habits, rather than relying solely on pharmaceutical pills.

This isn't limited to one group; most of the people in the medical community often treat complex biology as if it's straightforward and factual, when it's not.

Stay informed, learn how your body works, question the common narrative, and use your critical thinking. Physicians are humans too—just like us—and we all fall into these patterns sometimes.